The holidays should be filled with laughter, joy, and endless sweets. They should not be time spent worrying about your parenting time schedule or feeling lonely or angry. We know that sharing your children during the holidays is difficult, but if you take the steps to plan and communicate, the holidays can be a joyful time for everyone. Here are some helpful tips to help your holidays run smoothly.
Know the Schedule
Even if you are sure you know what the holiday schedule is, double check your parenting plan, especially if you are recently divorced. Check to see whose year it is and what time the holiday begins and ends. If you need to make changes to the schedule, talk to your ex-spouse as soon as you can. Holiday events are usually planned well in advance so your ex may not be able to make any changes if you wait until the last minute.
Don’t Dwell on the Date
The holidays are not about the date they are actually celebrated on, they are about the memories created. Don’t stress if you don’t have your kids on the actual holiday. You can easily adjust and have the holiday another day. Tell your kids what day they will be celebrating Christmas with you and watch them count down to your Christmas just like they did for the 25th.
Embrace the Holiday Spirit
Tis the season to be giving. If your ex asks for a change to the schedule, take the time to truly consider their request. You don’t want to spend the holidays arguing with your ex when you can make it work. Remember that you may need a change in the schedule at one point and you are going to want your ex to be giving.
Hais, Hais, & Goldberger want you to have a very special holiday season. If you need help working out your holiday schedule, contact us today.